life is to short toWe often hear of people hitting 50 and having a midlife crisis. The reality regarding midlife is that we likely hit that point in our 40′s based upon life expectancy. While that may seem depressing, it’s more a reminder for me to live my life fully. Since turning 40, I don’t believe I have experienced the cliche midlife crisis, but I have been more mindful of how I live my life; it’s too short to not focus on living a more fulfilled, happy life.

Life is too short to…

What about you?

Tell me what’s on your list!

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It’s Just Right

October 2, 2014

in Relationships

love and baseballSometimes people come into our lives who say they love us, and they genuinely mean it. And while we appreciate the sentiment, they love us in a way we don’t want to be loved or that doesn’t meet our needs. The realization–that we are loved in a way that isn’t really nourishing our soul–is sad. Both people are trying, and yet it’s not something that will be successful long term. At least, that has been my experience.

Why at this particular moment am I having these thoughts?

Because at 8:40 at night my husband is wall-mounting a television in my office so I can watch game 1 of the first post-season series for the Nationals tomorrow afternoon. This, to me, is my kind of love.

After a long commute home, Sean changed and started this project. The salad I made him for dinner sits half eaten as he works through finding studs, putting brackets on the television, and mounting. There was not a you-have-to-do-this-or-else conversation, and he is not complaining. Instead, he seems genuinely happy to be doing something for me. Not because I will owe him, but because he knows how much joy I will get from being able to watch afternoon baseball games. And that makes this wonderful man happy.

Sean loves me just the way I want to be loved. Whether it’s hanging a television at 8:40 PM on a Thursday or wrapping his arms around me when I have a bad day.

Sean’s love for me is just right.

What quirky way has someone shown you their love?

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On Being a Grown-Up

September 29, 2014

in Life Lessons

on being a grown upI always get the thoughtful–sometimes challenging–questions from my kids while driving. Typically it’s when we have a long drive or a lot of traffic, which means I can’t escape the ones I am not quite prepared to answer. Asking me how babies come out of a mommy’s body while driving on the highway many years ago is one that comes to mind (My response: “That’s a great question to ask daddy at dinner tonight!”).

Monkey, my youngest, is the one who most often likes to spend drive time having discussions on everything from childbirth to our favorite letter of the alphabet. Recently he posed this question:

“Mom, is it fun being a grown-up?”

What quickly became clear in our discussion was my son’s concern about life as an adult being terrible because adults have to work and pay for everything. It surprised me because Monkey’s two dads and I are all deeply passionate about what we do professionally, and love our work. Additionally, the kids see how great it is that I own my own company, allowing me the flexibility to never miss a baseball game, see the kids off to school daily, and not work their school holidays.

What I realized in digging deeper into the discussion is that hating a job and complaining about bills is so prevalent in society that our kids are attuned to this. Quitting a job is at the top of the list of what people would do if they hit the lottery, for example. Too often aspects of life are described as a grind rather than a fun adventure.

In speaking with someone this morning, we were discussing the details of his weekend and mine. After hearing I had a date with my husband, a relaxing Saturday, enjoyed football, and worked a ½ day Sunday, he focused on the latter part of my weekend: working. “Oh, that’s too bad,” he stated sympathetically. I found myself in a position not unfamiliar to me: explaining that I love my work.

Have I always been excited to rise each morning to start a new day?

No, of course not.

What we each have as adults is the freedom to make choices. We can better our lives through making changes in relationships (romantic or platonic), careers, financial situations, and many more aspects of life. We all have the ability to make being a grown-up fun.

Along with these abilities to make big life choices for myself as an adult, here are just a few more grown-up benefits I enjoy:

  • No one tells me when it’s “lights out” time.
  • Making my bed is optional.
  • Completing geometry proofs is never required.
  • Jumping in puddles in the rain doesn’t involve a scolding.
  • I only make vegetables I like to eat.

What about you?

Why do you like being a grown-up?

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Finding Calm in the Crazy

September 12, 2014
My life has been crazy this year. I planned a wedding, got married, launched a new blogazine, and merged two houses into one a couple of weeks before the wedding. And that was all in the first five months of the year. I went on to have the four younger kids here for a month, […]
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On Never Getting Old

August 16, 2014
It is not length of life, but depth of life. - Ralph Waldo Emerson ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am never going to get old. It’s not that I fear aging, but rather don’t want to be that person. The one who stops living life as an adventure because they hit a certain age. I don’t ever want to […]
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Love and Money

September 30, 2013
Early in dating, I told Sean a lot of things that would never happen in our relationship. We wouldn’t date seriously, exclusively, or marry. Ever, on the last one. He took it all in stride, never wavering in his confidence in himself or the possibility of something really great developing between us. So when I told […]
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