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2015: The Year of the Girlfriend

As a mostly failing recovering Type-A personality, making long lists of resolutions at the start of a new year isn't something I espouse to any longer. Recently finding

Christmas Cards: A Six-Year Hiatus

The last time I sent a Christmas card was 2007, which was the last year my ex and I were together. Moving out in December of 2008, there

My Christmas Wish

Visiting the blog of one of my favorite writers this morning, I struggled to comment on her post. I could close the tab and exit without leaving a trace of

Life is Too Short To…

We often hear of people hitting 50 and having a midlife crisis. The reality regarding midlife is that we likely hit that point in our 40's based upon life expectancy.

It’s Just Right

Sometimes people come into our lives who say they love us, and they genuinely mean it. And while we appreciate the sentiment, they love us in a way we

On Being a Grown-Up

I always get the thoughtful--sometimes challenging--questions from my kids while driving. Typically it's when we have a long drive or a lot of traffic, which means I can't

Finding Calm in the Crazy

My life has been crazy this year. I planned a wedding, got married, launched a new blogazine, and merged two houses into one a couple of weeks before

On Never Getting Old

It is not length of life, but depth of life. - Ralph Waldo Emerson ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am never going to get old. It's not that I fear aging,

Love and Money

Early in dating, I told Sean a lot of things that would never happen in our relationship. We wouldn't date seriously, exclusively, or marry. Ever, on the last one.

Match Helps Single Parents Find Love

Online dating sites were helpful for me as a single mom; I was able to screen significantly before committing to meet someone (time saver!) and, as unromantic as

Making Time to Learn and Bond

Fully embracing life and being happy has been a goal that has remained a constant in my life since the split from my ex. In fact, shortly after

What’s Under Your Rug?

All of us have something under our rug. It might be as small as a corn kernel or as big as a corpse, but I am confident we

A Special Seat in Hell

"Your dad is a good person, but we aren't good together." This is the greatest level of detail my children received from me regarding their dad, our problems,

A Taste of the Empty Nest Life

Eight years. That's all that separates this busy mom of two (soon to be five) kids from the group known as empty nesters. While my days are normally

What is Love, Revisited

What is love? It seems like an easy question to be asked, and one that anyone could answer. And yet, so many people are searching for the answer to

How to Stop Complaining

“Instead of complaining that the rose bush is full of thorns, be happy the thorn bush has roses.” ~Proverb On the last two miles of my typical run

G is for Great

Driving home recently, Monkey started telling me what a great letter "G" was in the alphabet. It seemed like an unusual start to a conversation, so I asked

The Internet Thinks I am a Bad Mom

Yesterday was Mother's Day. It was a special day for me, filled with Mother's Day well wishes from my children, fiancé, ex-husband, mother, other family members and friends.

Unleash Your Social Verve

Have you heard of Sverve yet? It's a place for female social media enthusiasts with blogs to come together to share tips and articles they love, help each

A Fresh Start

Standing in the newly-painted master bedroom, the possibilities feel endless. All the nail holes were covered when the artwork was removed. Electrical plates and light switch covers were

On Turning Three

Curled up with a hot cup of coffee, listening to the rain pattering outside on this spring morning, I am thinking about the past three years of my

The Boston Tragedy: Seeing the Light

Yesterday our eyes saw too much blood, smoke, and carnage than we should have on a beautiful spring day. And our hearts felt heavier than any of us

Overcoming Fear with Courage

As adults, we aren't fearful of monsters under our bed anymore. Instead it might be how to support a family when faced with unemployment, being alone after divorcing,

One Short of the Brady Bunch

We are one short of The Brady Bunch. It's something I hear from friends about us blending our family. The comparison doesn't bother me. While it was a

5 Things Children Teach Us

I love children. As I like to say, "Mine, and even other people's kids." Children know how to have fun, have the best perspectives on life, and are

Finding Work, Family, and Life Balance

In the first ten weeks of this year, I have worked hard to acquire new clients, successfully complete work for clients, write here, work towards greater visibility and

I Love You, And…

But seems like a benign enough word. It's not though. At least not in every circumstance. One that is a particular annoyance for me is: I am sorry,

Happiness and Hard Work

"Happiness does not come from doing easy work but from the afterglow of satisfaction that comes after the achievement of a difficult task that demanded our best." ~Theodore

Shhh….I am Not Supposed to Be Here

If you read my post yesterday, you know I am supposed to be unplugged until late afternoon today. You are probably judging me, thinking that I am feigning

Love Means Learning How to Unplug

Our weekends are often filled with tasks we need to accomplish around the house, activities planned with the kids, menu planning and grocery shopping for the next week,

A Positive Reflection

This week I wrote a post after re-writing the About page on my site. While I discovered an irrelevancy now to those words describing me from three years

A New Chapter in Life

There are many benefits to writing on a blog. One is the opportunity to clearly see the past as it was in the moment--not a revisionist's version of

What is Normal

Yesterday I posted about the unusual living arrangements Sean and I have chosen for our family. I stated I recognized it's not normal, but that it works for

Relationship Status: It’s Complicated

Before Sean and I met he had discovered a new community ten minutes from work and the same distance from his two youngest kids. The spacious, city-style brownstones

Rocking Out to Downton Abbey

It's a cold, grey, rainy day in the D.C. area today. This means that even though it's National Margarita Day, I will not be going to my favorite

Singles in America

I opine on the subject of being single and online dating based upon my personal experience and that of friends. The stories are fun (and sometimes sad) antidotes

Show Me Heart

After dinner out with Sean last night, we went to see one of our favorite bands, Mumford and Sons, in concert. As the opening act was ending, and

Scheduling Time for Having Fun

Fun. That's the new project in my OmniFocus task management system. It might seem sad that I had to add a project to have fun, but it's a

What Makes You Happy Today?

Five days. That is what is in the way of me seeing Mumford and Sons in concert. A special night early in dating Sean, I shared the band

It Doesn’t Have to Be Perfect

"Do what you can, where you are, with what you have." ~ Theodore Roosevelt This quote now hangs on the wall over my two work laptops. It's a

Together as a Family

Last night there was a family spat that resulted in tears for three of us. The details of what happened will remain private since it involves the kids,

How to Restore Trust in a Relationship

Sean broke our wedding vows recently. The fact we aren't married yet is just a technical detail. What is important is the commitment he made, to uphold five

Divorce Advice: Learn to Make Lemonade

Sometimes life sucks. There's no more eloquent way to put it. Life experiences can be frustrating, heartbreaking, painful, depressing, and more. Regardless the extent of the challenge, age

What I Want for My Children

When my children grow up, I want them to be _____________________. Reading that sentence, many will fill in the blank with a doctor, lawyer, teacher, my successor in

New Family Experiences

As this publishes, Sean and I are en route to New York City with our four youngest kids. Two of the four have never been to the city,

Twenty Years from Now

"Can you see yourself with him 20 years from now?" That's what a friend asked me after I announced becoming engaged to Sean. Without hesitation, I told her

A New Year. A New Site.

Last week when I announced completion of a new site on Facebook, I stated I felt a bit like the shoemaker's daughter. Being so busy working on client

The Power of Words

Words. Used wisely, they spark many emotions in a person, including make someone smile, laugh, feel loved, create a sense of safety, or build esteem. Used irresponsibly, words

10 Most Popular Posts in 2012

Yesterday I shared posts that meant the most to me in 2012, the ones that best defined my year. As promised, today I am sharing the top ten

2012: In My Own Words

Tomorrow I will be sharing the top ten posts I published in 2012. It's based upon what readers liked the most of my writing effort in 2012. Today,

Restoring Our Faith

When a tragedy strikes, we, as a nation, grieve with the victims and their families. We feel touched by the heartbreaking accounts when the tragedy is a natural

Custom Cookie Mix for the Gift-Giving Season

The holiday season is a wonderful time of year; decorating the house, gathering with special friends and family, making wonderful holiday-centric meals, attending fun parties, and baking are

Saying Yes

 "I am never getting married again." "There's probably only a 10% chance we will still be together at Thanksgiving." "You have no business remarrying either, Sean." "Let's promise

He’s Worth It

Readers have been on a roller coaster with me, sharing my excitement over a new relationship, and my tears at it's conclusion. I write from my heart, sharing

Hair Products for the Holidays

With company parties, family get-togethers, neighborhood gatherings, and big holiday soirees, this is the time of year we all have more opportunities to dress up and look our

Thanks Santa

It's official. With only 22 days until Santa arrives, we are in full swing for the Christmas season. If you are like my family, the count for this

The Process for Finding Mr. Perfect for Me

Perfection. I have written my thoughts about this being a dirty word for me. This perfection-seeking tendency is something I will wrestle with quietly my whole life. When I

Naked Girl Says, “Size Matters.”

Size matters. That's what a lot of people say. I don't think it matters as much as when a guy lies about size though. That's why I pay attention

Happy Cyber Monday

After writing a somewhat anti-Black Friday and anti-consumerism post last week, publishing this piece today might seem contradictory. It's not. We will all be shopping for our kids

Love, Hope, and Faith

Consumer-focused Black Friday is looming, and threatening to take the spotlight off Thanksgiving. Many retailers are opening on the holiday this year, which to me is sad. I

Avoiding Mental Purgatory

The gray area. My own version of a mental Purgatory. Having uncertainty leaves me spinning, looking incessantly for the answer so that I can move myself safely into

A Week of Giving Thanks

This week of Thanksgiving I will be doing something more productive than stressing about seating for dinner, figuring out if I have enough plates to feed 40+ people

Living a Kid-Free Weekend

Six weeks. That's how long it has been since Sean and I had a kid-free weekend. I think we have forgotten what to do with all the time

It’s Not Goodbye…

Some people enter our lives at precisely the right moment to make a significant impact. Tracey Gaughran-Perez is one of those people for me; she has been an

Happy Fake Thanksgiving

Sean and I do not have our children for Thanksgiving this year. Since it is Sean's favorite holiday, we decided to have a Thanksgiving dinner early with our

Focus on the Good

After writing a non-resolution post at the beginning of the year, I followed it up a few days later with a three-word commitment. The exercise in choosing three

Seeing the World with Grateful Eyes

"It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see." ~Henry David Thoreau Right now many people on Facebook are posting daily what they are grateful

Dare to Dream Big

As we were driving recently, my son shared with me his life plan (his words). Some of his dreams I have heard before, but a few new ones

A Compelling (?) Argument to Elect Romney

I have successfully avoided political arguments on Facebook and among friends. That is something to be proud of this election year as emotions are at an all-time high.

Pause. Breathe. Start Anew.

Back-to-school rush. Three fall sports activities. Watching professional baseball. Halloween. The first half of fall has been busy for me, but there is a lull. Kid and professional

Be the Change

There is an unprecedented amount of passion surrounding the presidential election this year. Spend five minutes on Facebook for confirmation. There's an endless stream of politically-oriented postings, and

NaBloPoMo is Crazy Talk

I am crazy. ALL CAP, italic, and bold kind of CRAZY.  It would be crazy to commit to National Blog Post Month (NaBloPoMo), writing a blog post each

A Soon-to-Be-Happy Halloween

I have been a Halloween crank with my kids. The decorations didn't go up until yesterday. Frankenstorm was here to destroy the outside decorations, but I can't use

Defining Real Beauty

Today's guest writer, Patricia Iles, is one of the newest members of Studio30 Plus. After reading a piece she submitted to the S30P Community Blog, and reading her

What is Love?

Beginning to fade from the extended exposure to sunlight was a child's artwork project on my friend's refrigerator. Her daughter was asked to fill in the blank inside

Living with No Regrets

"What are your dreams?" Someone asked me that soon after I separated from my ex. The question stumped me. I didn't have an answer, and I was embarrassed

Learning How to Date as a Single Mom

Today's guest is Mikki Morrissette, moderator of Choice Moms website. She is an amazing example of someone who can excel at motherhood and career, while also providing a

Finding Perspective

Last night there was a flurry of activity in my home. I was packing to teach a night course, watching the Nationals game, and making sure everything was

The Ugly Truth about Mr. Perfect

Mr. Perfect doesn't exist. Seriously, he doesn't. Get over it now if you want to find your own version of happily ever after. You need to realize scenarios

A Single Mom, Not a Superhero

After four years as a single mom, I still have not realized the impossibility of also being a superhero. Instead of accepting this reality, my inner voice regularly

Love in a Long Distance Relationship

Sean Jeffries is a single dad, self-proclaimed computer geek, and writer. He is fairly new to blogging, but don't take that as a novice writer; he is incredibly

I Will Wait

"Do you expect to find someone who will be in precisely the same place emotionally as you throughout the relationship?" Pushing him away, trying to slow him down

Naked Girl in the Jungle

Naked Girl in a Dress is about rediscovering life and love at any age. My little home on the internet focuses on my aim to live free, happy,

Relationships with Expiration Dates

My romantic relationships have always come with expiration dates. I can't always clearly read the date or know the circumstances, but each will perish. This isn't the healthiest way

Man, I Feel Like a Woman

Today's guest writer's opening is a how-we-met story. It's accurate, but I am going to add a little detail. CV from Cubicle Views joined Studio30 Plus. He was excited

Single Woman ISO Laughter

Never one to focus on having regrets in life doesn't mean I don't wistfully think it would be nice for a do-over at times. In my marriage the

How Important is the First Kiss?

In the time I have been single, I have learned a few important things from dating: The first kiss isn't an indicator of chemistry. A toe-curling first kiss

Lucky Me

The last four years of my life have been a series of ups and downs: divorce, heartbreak, financial uncertainty, love, financial certainty, and more. I have made sure

Maneuvering the Life in Between

Most of us don't experience significantly sorrowful or joyful days daily. We mostly live the life that is in between. It's best we live in this space because

The Definition of Tenacious

Tenacious. That's one adjective a man used to describe himself to me on a first date a month ago. I thought I understood the definition of tenacious before

10 Essential Things You Missed This Summer

It's understandable for readers to take vacations, spend time at the pool, and drink a lot of fruity drinks with umbrellas throughout the summer. Maybe some finally decided

Single Me vs. Married Me

Married Me would rise most weekday mornings at 5:30 to run at least six miles. One weekend morning each week she would typically run 10. Her cycling would

Finding that ‘Alone’ Time

There are a lot of ways I discover a blogger to read and follow. It could be through a post link being tweeted, a Facebook post, or from

Why I’m Going Commando

Everyone understands divorce is a life-changing event. Some of us also believe there is an awakening that occurs, bringing with it an opportunity for endless possibilities. Jeanie Rule of

On How I Abuse My Child

This morning I woke with a sense of both dread and excitement. Excitement for the upcoming date with a great guy this evening.  A guy who is bright,

5 Tips for a Happy Marriage

Are there any blogs you visit and consistently find yourself laughing? Hollow Tree Ventures is a perfect example of a site where you will enjoy the writing and

Get Ready for Fall with Shoe Cushions

It's still summer. If you are like me, that means you are barefoot as often as possible. And, when wearing shoes, they are flip flops or comfortable sandals.

The Advantages of Serial Dating

I have a confession to make: I am a serial monogamist at heart. If I like a guy after a couple of dates, it seems logical to me

My Timeline in Review

Two years ago I was in the exact location I am now: a small lakeside community in the mountains with the same friend and our children. This vacation, like

Becoming a Single Mom Saved Me

The smart, sassy, tell-it-like-it-is Melysa Schmitt is guest writer today. She writes about her single mom experiences and dating adventures on her site Sex, Lies, and Bacon. I

The Unexpected Gift of Rain

Early Sunday morning I awoke to cool temperatures, a constant breeze, and rain. I had slept with the windows and bedroom deck door open, so it was chilly,

Learning to See the Exit Sign

Do you see the sign to the left? I am told by a reliable source it is an exit sign. I can't see it because I have a

I Don’t Care. I Love it.

Today's guest, Nancy Davis Kho, is unapologetic about her obsession with music and concerts as an adult. Midlife Mixtape is where she shares it all: music, motherhood, modern

Life in a Writing Community

Over a year ago I wrote a post called "Why I Blog." The impetus for the piece was a rude comment left by a reader. The hateful words

A Complaint of Olympic Proportions

Something happens every four years that gets my panties in a knot. It's not leap year or the U.S. presidential election. For a busy single mom, gaining 24

Living a Miraculous Life

Today's guest writer is Leah Carey of The Miracle Journal. She is someone who, no matter how insignificant the contact (e.g., comment of a Facebook post), she makes

Defining My Own ‘Happily Ever After’

Last week I wrote a piece focusing on storybooks and relationships, complaining essential lessons about love are not in these books. I then discovered a storybook last weekend

What Storybooks Won’t Teach You

Last week I did a face plant into a box of tissues. When I could cry no more, I slowly removed my head from the sodden box, carefully

Interviewing Prince Charming

Today's guest is a special friend: David from The Blue Orchid of Texas. We visit each other's blogs and enjoy interacting on Studio30 Plus. David always leaves wonderfully

A Spirit Soaring in the Sun

As I sit to write this it is almost noon. I have not felt nauseous and there have been no tears so far today. I am also breathing

Exorcising the Elephant

I have been quiet on my blog lately, but feel it's time to write again. There are many things I would like to write about, but I have

The Definition of Success

When you hear someone mention a "successful person," is the assumption this person has a healthy work-life balance or is happy? Of course not. The implication is financial

Memory is the Diary We All Carry About with Us

Today's guest writer is Nicole DeFelice. She is a talented writer and professional editor. Her articles about editing in the Studio30 Plus Community Blog are always popular. Nicole's

What Would Bryce Harper’s Mom Do?

Life can be simultaneously joyous and challenging. It is something I recognize daily with our family life right now. It is probably inaccurate calling what we are living

Love and Hate

Someone I love is being bullied by a vapid man who perceives her to be an easy target for abuse. Men like him, who prey on women, are weak,

Progress from Perfectionism

The drive to be perfect- it's an unwelcome quality still hanging on from my marriage. I battle this urge to aim for perfection in an attempt to extinguish

Blogging Was My Provenance

Nothing pleases me more than hosting someone who has recently come out as a blogger. Last month I hosted Marie Nicole, who used to blog under the pen

30 Days to a Happier Life

This week's third installment in the Contemplation & Growth Series is on Happiness. Of the six topics being covered, this is the one I write about most often

On Claims and Karma

Guest writers for Naked Girl in a Dress are planned at least a month in advance, but the writing schedule for my own posts is much closer to

Starting Saturday with Paramore

This week was the start of a series based upon recent reflection, which I hope will lead to greater understanding and personal growth. Over the next few weeks

Is Commitment Phobia a Fear of Failure?

I dodged two bullets in the last four years. I avoided a vitriolic, expensive divorce and narrowly escaped marrying someone who can only be described as the Antichrist.

Zombies Are the New Black

 Monday I started a several week series. I will be writing about my reflections on a variety of more serious topics. While I am working on these posts,

A Series of Contemplation and Growth

With the one-year anniversary of my divorce passing last week, I have thought about how good life has been these first 12 months of singledom. I could choose

A Moment of Gratitude and Reflection

After a four-day holiday weekend that was at a relaxed pace, I spent Tuesday and Wednesday sick. I did my best to work on key projects, but found

Marie Nicole is Naked and Loving It

The fascinating Marie Nicole from My Cyber House Rules is guest writer today. Fascinating because she traveled ten months a year as a race car mechanic. Marie then

Casting Troubles Into the Sky

The Boyfriend is struggling with something right now. The disappointment and sadness was apparent throughout our call last night. It was so difficult to be on the phone

Naked Boy in a Suit

Today's guest writer is Brahm from alfred lives here. Full disclosure: I fell in love with Alfred, the adorable dog-child of Brahm, first. It was inevitable that I

Teaching Kids Not to Hate

While other young kids were having Pat the Bunny read to them by their mothers, I was teaching my kids bad words. I felt it was important to learn them,

A Pain-Free Anti-Aging Solution

Aging isn't an all-consuming concern of mine, but I can't say that looking younger isn't important to me. It would be hypocritical to do so while admitting I

Love Shining Brightly

Considering two weeks before I met The Boyfriend I declared I was never dating again, this relationship was unexpected. It's not just about the surprise of finding myself

Polka Dot Green Dress

Charlotte from My Pixie Blog is the guest writer today. She is a fun, talented, upbeat person who always seems to brighten my day. I know Charlotte through

Seeing a Ray of Sunshine

Just a few weeks shy of the one year anniversary of my divorce, I have been thinking of the good fortune that has come my way after a

I Ain’t Afraid of No Teenagers

My guest today is Katie Sluiter from Sluiter Nation. It's probably best to start by saying Katie is awesome and inspiring. She is a great writer, positive person,

Love, Hate, and Marriage Equality

Each time I publish a post in the category While Perched Upon My Soapbox I find myself writing a prelude to the piece. It usually starts

My Breasts are My Greatest Asset

Yesterday while running along the National Mall I saw something unusual; there was a sea of pink everywhere. A large pink archway, signs, shirts, flowers, and more. I

What’s Your Excuse?

My ex competed for a slot on the U.S. Short Course Duathlon team last weekend. He has made the team the last several years and enjoys traveling to

5 Advantages of Being Single

Lying naked on the examination table with a paper gown covering very little, I waited. After a few minutes of staring at a wildlife picture taped to the

5 Tips for Letting Go of Anger

As I was upstairs getting ready to leave for baseball practice yesterday, I heard a commotion on the first floor. There was yelling, door slamming, and  sobbing. As

Best Parts and Worst Parts

My guest today is Heidi Cave of Fancy Feet. She writes about her life today as well as a tragedy she experienced years ago. The car accident resulted in

5 Reasons to Never Get Married. Ever.

Ben from Dad of the Decade is a versatile, brilliant writer. He is currently writing the poignant story of his life with his daughter Emma. Ben has regularly

6 Things to Inspire Being Happy

There are times coming off the path on my journey has led to unexpected, positive events. Recently meandering on a different path has not been a good experience.

Answering the Question: Is He The One?

In the last four years of dating, two men have brought me flowers on the first date. Both turned out to have control issues and were, coincidentally, both complete

Getting Fit for Spring

Getting in shape. It's what many people start thinking about when the weather starts to warm up. For me, I have run regularly through the winter, but not

Studio30 Plus Has a New Home

The big day is here. Studio30 Plus has a new home. For my readers who are also writers, it's simply the place to be if you want to

5 Reasons to Get Married

I have been considering taking a big step: to marry again. I stand by all the reasons why I hesitate in remarrying, but there is an overriding need

Semi-Unplugged Sundays

I work daily. Yes, seven days a week. Before you start to feel sorry for me, let me stop you. I am not opening up today's post looking

At Home

This week's guest writer is Molly Campbell from Life with the Campbells: View from the Empty Nest. She is a breath of fresh air whenever I log into

The Boyfriend and Baseball

Baseball. To me, it's the greatest sport. In season I could write posts weekly at Naked Girl in a Dress, but I am confident, knowing my readers, I

The Fresh Diet: Gourmet Meals Delivered

As a single mom who dates and enjoys pursuing various interests, life can be hectic. Okay, so it is always hectic; can be was not accurate. Last week I wrote

It’s Never Too Late

 Starting over. Learning something new. Choosing a different path to follow. These are all terrifying concepts. There is comfort in making excuses for being stuck in one place;

Failure Was My Greatest Success

Chrysta Bairre from Live Love Work is a talented motivational writer. I was ecstatic when she accepted my invitation to be a guest writer. Visit her to feel

Celebrating Change

Change It used to be a dirty word. No one would dare utter the "c word" around me for fear it would send me in a tailspin. There

Who I Am

Reading great writing can do a lot of things. It can entertain us, make us laugh or cry, it can frustrate us, and on the rare occasion we

A New Adventure Begins

My longtime readers know about Studio30 Plus (S30P), a social media site for writers 30 and older, because I have mentioned it regularly. Several of my posts came

The Hidden Shame of Dog Bullying

Amy from Kid-Free Living is the guest today. She is a funny, talented writer I love to visit regularly. While she is happily kid-free, today she 'outed' herself

How to Be Alone

Being alone. Lately I have been contemplating what being alone felt like post separation and how it has taken shape in my life today. This has been on

The Mommie Dearest in Me

I consider myself a fun mom. I am the first to wear my pj's inside out to encourage snow (what, you haven't heard about this trick?) the next

Family Rules

We have a canvas wall hanging in our home with a listing of our family rules. It has become a go-to place in the house to remember what

Want Some Advice?

Earlier this year I announced Thursdays will be focused on sharing my favorite people from the online writing community; I will have guest writers with  some

The 5 Most Difficult Posts to Publish

The post on Tuesday was one of the more difficult pieces for me to write and publish. I wrote and re-wrote it numerous times before hitting publish. Then,

The Battle for Dining Etiquette

It is unclear to me why I am trying to get an eight-year-old boy to put a cloth napkin in his lap each night, but I am. It

Coming Home

On a beautiful weekend day last fall, I found myself sitting in front of The Boyfriend for the first time. Within minutes of taking my seat, I was

A Beautiful Expression of Love

The first time I read this I was moved by the words, beauty, and truth. And then, to my surprise, I discovered the author at the end. I

The Power of Forgiveness

Forgiveness. It can be the most difficult thing to give another person, but it can be the most liberating. Forgiveness can bring about an inner peace for the

Finding True Love and Inner Peace

At some point in the separation and divorce process I started to search for answers. Not about the past, but about my future. I wanted to feel ready

Dating Advice: Start with a List

Starting to date after a marriage has ended can be difficult. I often hear, "I never thought I would be doing this again." After spending most of my adult

Two Weeks on Love & Relationships

With Valentine's Day 15 days away, I have decided to have a Love & Relationship series for the next two weeks. At the beginning of February last year

On Winning 1 Million Dollars

On a run recently my mind was racing with ideas. The mind-racing thing actually happens whenever I am not sleeping. Just so you know. Oh, and sometimes my

Rediscovering Hope and Love

I meet so many people through my blog and social media. Many I consider friends without ever having met them. Alycia Neighbours is one of those people. She's

Peering In and Down from the Top

Peering down from the top of an indoor climbing wall on Sunday, my belayer continued to repeat she was prepared for me to descend. It was good to

200 Later: Progress on the Journey

200 It's a big number. No one lives to be 200 and many blogs never live long enough to have the 200th post published. It's a really big

Like a Crapper Gargoyle

Peter DeWolf asked if he could visit Naked Girl in a Dress with a short fiction guest piece. I love his writing. How could I say no? Enjoy!

But I Love Him Anyway

The first guest writer of the New Year is Eric Storch from I Can't Brain; I Have the Dumb. Never heard of him? If not, it is because

60 Seconds of Happiness

Happiness is something I write about often. I have opined it is not something fleeting, but rather happiness is a state of mind. Does that mean I am

Embracing Dysfunction

  Last night, with my bluetooth in my ear, I was upstairs multi-tasking. Talking to The Boyfriend as he drove home from a visit to see his children,

My 3 Words for 2012

After posting on Monday the idea of creating a New Year's Resolutions list that is filled with things you are actually excited to do, I came across this

2011: A Year in Review

True fact: Bloggers, on some level, are all narcissists. Any blogger who cares to disagree with me, take heed: we think people are interested in what we have

An Act of Kindness at Christmas

  With two days until Christmas most of us are busy wrapping gifts, baking, and preparing the house for company. The excitement and anticipation for the holiday isn't

You Had Me at Abnormal

I experienced a you-had-me-at-hello moment with my boyfriend recently. The words uttered by my boyfriend would not be taken by many as romantic and loving; some could consider

New Synonym for Stubborn: Stupid

Life is full of surprises, with an adventure at every turn in the road. I have written about embracing this concept often. Being open to unexpected opportunities in

A Change in Season: Welcome Fall

The change in a season after many months of the same weather is something I look forward to with anticipation. The scenery and temperature changes. There is a

Perfecting Who We Are

Last week I wrote about a perceived lack of progress in an area of my life, but ended the week writing a more positive message about progress. Just

Me: A Work in Progress

Last Monday I was dealing with something difficult, which I wrote about on Tuesday. The post included the statement that I felt I had taken ten steps back

The Road to Happiness

Not long ago I had an email exchange with a reader about progress towards happiness and being brave. I pointed out the big step I made a year

My Five Best Decisions in Life

Schmutzie, blogger and web designer extraordinaire (she created this site's masthead), recently wrote a post with the five best decisions she has made in her life.

Living an Adventure-Filled Life

"Mom, we need 25 helium balloons, a video camera, and a homing device," said Monkey last night at dinner. The topic of discussion was planning an adventure for

How to Make Good Things Happen

Good thoughts. It is that simple. Or so my son told me recently. As we were driving, out of nowhere, my son announced: "Good thoughts make good things

Jumping Into Life

On a recent rainy, puddle-filled run I stretched out and leaped, not to avoid a huge puddle, but to land my foot in the middle of it. I

I am Not a Tree

"If you don't like where you are then change it. You are not a tree."* Change. It is such a difficult thing for most of us. Even if

A Recipe for Happiness

  My sister was recently looking through our late grandmother's recipe box. In between the recipes for blueberry muffins and chocolate pound cake she came across a different

Where Do I Take Naked Girl This Fall?

One week after completing photography school, I have a clearly-defined understanding of my photography goals, which includes launching a food blog in a month. But what about Naked

What Compels You?

This week's guest writer is Lisa from Random Girl. It touched me to read her opening where she described me as an inspiration, cheerleader, and a friend. Lisa

I Am a Naked Girl in a Dress

This week's guest writer is Kir of The Kir Corner. She is enthusiastic, happy, and passionate about writing. I love to receive comments from her and

I Found a Scapegoat for the DC Heatwave

It's 200 degrees in Washington, D.C. right now. Okay, that is a slight exaggeration, but only slight. Seriously, it was probably 90 degrees last night when

The Anatomy of Pantlessness

This week's guest writer is David Kaa of The Manwife Chronicles. Why does he call himself the manwife? Because he has been unemployed and home taking care of

No Exquisite Sin Greater Than Central Air

This week's guest writer is Heather O'Brien Webb of The Destiny Manifest. Heather has a wonderful way with words. She shares simplicity and the joy of life through

I Believe in Pink

Doubt It creeps in and takes hold. Doubt affects our ability to succeed. It can cloud our decisions. If left unchecked, doubt can lead to panic, anxiety, or

A New Dad Adventure

The first guest post of the summer is Brandon Duncan of Brandon the Duncan. Brandon's tagline is Daddydom in 4L (Living, Learning, Laughing & Loving it!). He's a

A Good Life

These first few weeks of summer have been filled with golf, dinners with friends, playing with the kids at the pool, watching baseball, running, swimming, movies, playing games,

Prepare for an Invasion This Summer

This week I have been busy preparing for an invasion. No, Judgement Day is not coming soon; it is still scheduled for October 21st. This has nothing to

And I Shall Call Him Mr. Thunderbolt

Earlier this year I wrote about trying to find the right time to introduce someone I am dating to my blog. Conversely, when is the right time to

Summer Days

"Who wants to spend the first week of summer sitting inside (and spending large amounts of money) working on dismantling a marriage? My guess is no

New Beginnings

This week I have felt every emotion possible as a result of finalizing my divorce. It has been a hard week, but by last night I felt more

Endings Are New Beginnings

Just as I have each morning for the last 29 months, today I woke up married, but estranged from my husband. My divorce hearing was today so tomorrow

Just the Way I Am

When I reentered the dating scene last fall I started by creating a list of qualities I was looking for in a man. I also decided I would

Embracing a New Dream at Any Age

"What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning.The end is where we start from." ~T. S. Eliot It

The Gift of Forgiveness

Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them. ~Bruce Lee One day last year my soon-to-be ex asked me out to lunch. What I

A Wishing Flower

My blog title is based upon something my daughter said at the age of three. I also write often about how much I love children. Simply stated, children

Gone, But Not Forgotten

A week ago today my grandmother died. Gram lived over 90 years. She buried 11 siblings, two husbands, a son, and a grandson. Gram was a strong, remarkable

I Like How my Weekend Sounds

This week I wrote about photography and the peace that it brings me when I am behind the lens. In the past I have written about why I

Finding Peace through My Lens

Last week I wrote about the challenges to balance my life in the last month. I balanced working on catching up with focusing on fun activities with the

The Start of Something Good

This weekend (Friday through Sunday) includes an estimate for new carpeting, lunch with a girlfriend, a chiropractor's appointment, cycling, running, a fun date, lunch with a group of

The Angel I Aspired to Be

Who did you want to be, when playing pretend with your friends? Was it the Bionic Woman or the Six Million Dollar Man? How many desperately wanted to

Observations on a Life in Progress

Writing my 100th post on Naked Girl's 11 month anniversary last Friday sparked a few days of contemplation. Looking back at where I was in my

100 Posts and 11 Months Later

Writing my 100th post feels a bit like writing my first; there is tremendous pressure (albeit self-inflicted) to recognize this milestone properly. Add in that the 100th post

Serendipity or Zemblanity?

Serendipity -noun 1. an aptitude for making desirable discoveries by accident. 2. good fortune; luck In the summer of 2008 I woke up to a day filled with

And the Big Announcement is…

All bloggers, on some level, are narcissists. We think readers care about what we made for dinner, how potty training is coming along with Junior, and

Living My Childhood Dream

Childhood dreams. What first comes to mind when you read these two words? Do you think about your hope of becoming a vet or astronaut? Does an image

International Women’s Day: Who Inspires You?

Today marks the 100th anniversary of International Women's Day. It is a day to celebrate achievements of women around the world, and about recognizing women's rights and empowerment.

Why I Blog

Why do we blog? Do we write to entertain our readers, chronicle our lives, inform the masses, connect with a community, make money, or get published? I believe there

Remarrying: Maybe or I Do?

Dating post-divorce involves a different set of questions than when you are single and have not been married. Even if compatibility and chemistry exists, there are

Love: As Easy as 1,2,3,4

I could not wait to write a wrap-up for the week this week because there are a lot of exciting things to share today. Many of

Love in the Right League

"You were way out of his league. You know that, don't you?" When a friend made this comment following a relationship breakup last fall, I didn't know what

A Broader View

This blog was conceived to record my journey to become a Naked Girl in a Dress and I hoped others would find something in my writing that resonated

How are You Traveling Through Life?

When I hear about someone behaving in a hostile manner, witness rage, or read anything written that is filled with hate, I pause. I pause and remember the

This Writer Revived

In mid-December I wrote a piece about learning to dance in the rain. Elizabeth Flora Ross, one of my readers, who is also in a virtual writing group

The Gift of Faith

I will be spending the day playing games, building Legos, cooking, watching the snow fall, playing with my new Kindle, and enjoying the company of friends and family

The Gift of Unconditional Love

There is no greater gift than to love and be loved unconditionally. Unconditionally is the most important word in the previous sentence. To me, conditional love is not

The Gift of Good Health

I feel so blessed to be in good health. I am able to be physically active, which allows me to fully appreciate all life has to offer. I

The Gift of Children

Yesterday I wrote about a special holiday series of posts leading up to Christmas. Regular readers are probably not surprised to read the first gift I am sharing

A Week of Gifts at Christmas

Last night the children and I drove home after a weekend away visiting old friends. We wound down country roads and through small towns the entire way home.

Baby, It’s Cold Outside

Longtime readers know that I am always looking for the positive in life. Gratitude is important to me. As someone who is active and enjoys running

Dancing in the Rain

Last week a reader commented on a post I wrote five months ago. It was a piece about celebrating the progress I had made in the

Thanksgiving Blessings

A gaggle of children running in and out of the house; two refrigerators filled with food; 15 people coming for dinner; the house rearranged for a large sit-down;

Blissfully Writing for an Online Magazine

In addition to writing for my blog, I am also a contributing writer for Blissfully Domestic, an online magazine. Today my first article appears in this online publication.

Sundays in my City

Either fall allergies are getting the best of me or I have a cold. Either way, I am congested and cranky. This also means I didn't venture far

The First Signs of Fall

The air is crisp in the morning and evening. Leaves are falling from the trees. Children are walking to school in light jackets. Honey Crisp apples

Back-to-School Resolutions

Waiting for a new year to begin to set goals is overrated. September is my favorite time of year to set resolutions. After playing with the

One Chance in Life. Get it Right.

This week I have spent more time listening than writing. People around me are struggling. Difficult ex-spouses, ailing parents, children struggling with school routines, parents struggling with school

Better Days

Better days. I am on the edge of a new life. Attraversiamo. I am ready to cross over. The universe is opening up to meet me. I am

It’s a Beautiful Day

This morning I realized the two month anniversary of going public with Naked Girl in a Dress was this week. The one month anniversary was big.

5 Tips for Being Happy

Yesterday a few people in my life disappointed me. The more I thought about the situations that had occurred, the more I became upset. By dinnertime my frustration

25 Things I’ve Never Told You

Corbett Barr from Think Traffic  and Free Pursuits recently wrote a post to allow his readers to really get to know him. Corbett wrote the piece to strengthen

I Forgot to Introduce Myself

Last Friday I assessed my progress (or lack thereof) to be a naked girl in a dress. Over the weekend I thought about what it meant

A Blogger who Looks Great Naked

Grace Adams does look better naked. Maybe I have a soft spot for naked bloggers, but I have fallen in love with blogger Grace Adams of

Finding Courage from Within

Separation and divorce create many challenges. Financial, work/life balance, and solo parenting are a few examples. Aside from the obvious challenges, there are fears that develop

5 Tips for Supporting a Separated Friend

There's a plethora of information on the internet about surviving a divorce, but what about advice for individuals supporting their separated friends? For those interested in being supportive,

Television Challenge: Week 2

The TV Challenge continues whether I like it or not. Click HERE to read about the start of the TV Challenge and HERE to find out

Celebrating Each Step

Last month I raced in the Annapolis Zooma Half Marathon. It was an incredibly hot and humid day. My training leading up to the race was

Television Challenge: Week 1

A week ago today I decided to accept the TV Challenge from Alex at Late Enough. I thought it would be easy because we don't watch

Life is short. Order the lobster roll.

At times I am plagued with indecision simply because I fear not making the right decision. When indecision strikes, time is consumed while I macerate over

Competitiveness breeds Stupidity

Alex at Late Enough threw down her gauntlet and I picked it up, accepting the challenge. Yes, I will be kicking her sorry ass in the

Nesting with an Empty Womb

I am being obsessive and maybe a little crazy. There is this uncontrollable urge in me to clean and purge. I started to worry, but then

Start of Summer Redux

Who wants to spend the first week of summer sitting inside (and spending large amounts of money) working on dismantling a marriage? My guess is no one. Last

Shiny Happy People

Do you ever feel dread at the beginning of the week, knowing what is ahead of you? That was my week this week. This was the

Free to Be You and Me

"Boys are more competitive than girls." "Boys play more sports than girls." These are comments made by my son (Monkey) last Friday while we were having

My Fairy Godfather

There are times in life when we are struggling with a challenge that seems to be getting the best of us. This overwhelming difficulty  feels like

You Need a Man

  "Kell, you need a man." Me: "Really? I think I am doing great on my own." Well, not great, actually. OK is probably a better

I am Ready to Swim

Separation is like treading water; I am exhausted from the effort involved in keeping my head above water, yet I make no progress in moving in

Audrey Hepburn’s Beauty Tips

Recently I read something hateful. It was written with the intention to harm another individual and while I was not the person this anger was directed

Can you lick your own armpit?

Last week I participated in an arts and crafts event to sell my photography. As the date neared, I began to feel overwhelmed. This was only the second

The Joys of Motherhood

There are moments when I wonder WHY I brought these two monsters children into this world. We all have those moments and it is usually when my two

Life is Unpredictable

Writing a first blog post (to me, at least) must be like writing a first sentence in a novel. It is overwhelming to create that starting point, with

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